085 - Post-Auphonic POSTED version#ArtTogetherNow
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What to expect in this episode...Hey, there today's episode is about art, creativity and rewriting old patterns. In the last year I have found myself relying on old strategies that I had forgotten about old patterns of behavior that worked for me once upon a time, they kept me safe for one reason or another, but they were never very good at making me happy. In this year I've been researching and figuring out how to count coup on these strategies. Basically how to turn these old patterns that don't serve me anymore on their head and replace them with new ones. I'm gonna share four of these patterns with you here. And then I'm going to invite you to come and participate with me in one of them, and maybe you'll be inspired to help create some art together now. One of those old patterns is lashing out with my words. It's bizarre to watch yourself hurting someone that you love and knowing what you're doing and feeling like it's justified and that you shouldn't stop all at the same time.
It's confusing, it wastes a lot of energy and it's just not true. I have deeply hurt people this year. And I know it's not just me. I've heard from a number of friends and clients who've been snapping at their partners, at their kids, at their coworkers. Fuses are short, patience is thin and words can become like swords when we are too mature to physically hurt someone, but not so mature that we can transcend our own bullshit yet. I hope that you had escaped this. This is a really confusing pattern because it feels like I'm right. It feels like everyone should be changing their behavior because I say so, because I'm right, right? But I've heard many times from some of my mentors and teachers, I think this is from Abraham Hicks, but I could be wrong. You can be right, or you can be happy.
I'd rather be happy, right? Feels like the right answer but honestly, I'd rather be happy. I've noticed that when I fall into this pattern sooner, or later, uh, I ended up seeing that my words are not actually helping no matter how important the point that I'm trying to make seems to be. But sometimes it's much, much later than I would like it to be, the sooner the better. One of the things that's helped me with this pattern is realizing that all of my complaints have gold inside them somewhere. Complaints always come with a gift if you're willing to open up the package and look inside. It's not easy to do, but when we can open up the gift and accept it, then suddenly we're free from that complaint forevermore, at least that's what I've noticed.
For instance, the complaint of, you know, you never call me anymore. You never bring me flowers anymore. The gift in that complaint is really attention. It's attention and focus and connection. It's not about the flowers or the texting or the calling, it's about the connection. The second thing, and this is also related to the complaints is that I don't think anyone ends up in this pattern without having lost their own meaning and purpose and drive in life first. Because when my purpose is clear, I couldn't give a shit how out of alignment you are. I mean, I will call you out on your misalignment of energy, but it won't trigger me. I won't cause me this spiral into my own doubt. I won't spend hours obsessing over how to twist the knife in deeper because well, they deserve it. I've also found that humor is really helpful here. Humor is a great way for me breaking this pattern.
I think because a big part of humor is timing and insight, and we can get the timing and the insight right on the right subject it can shine a light on s- a situation in a way that changes the way we see it and changes the way we relate to it and to ourselves and to everybody in that situation. Daniel Sloss has a standup show on Netflix called Dark, which is both hilarious and talks about how he uses humor in dark situations. He makes a really good point that joking about terrible things is one of the ways that we can reclaim our power. And it's a valid way of dealing with it. Sloss has some jokes, I think they're fairly recently about falling in love and how falling in love, if it's true, it is so inconvenient, so fucking inconvenient and how like that's how you know, it's true love, I think in some ways, this is a little bit of a 27 year old talking about love.
And I also think he's got some really good points. I think true love the kind of love where you really care about the other person and you want the best for them. And you care enough to go and do something about it and make something happen. That talks up your life, you know, whatever life plans you might've had or changed. I think I know I don't have kids, but I hear my friends and partners and siblings talking about how kids completely change your priorities. And I think it's because of that. I think it's because of that true love and knowing, Oh my gosh, I would do anything for this person. Now, all of a sudden my priorities are completely different, but I think the other thing that is true is that true love is an infinite energy source and it's so worth it. By the way, if you're curious about using some humor to help reset yourself or find new insights into new directions, there's actually a lot of good comedy right now out there.
I have been listening on Audible. There's a series called Punchlines. Yeah, it's- it's pretty new. I think episode 10 was my favorite one recently and Tiffany Haddish on Netflix has a series called They Ready. And I don't really love her style of comedy to be honest. The- the second season of They Ready came out and I liked almost all of the comedians on the second season. They're all short 20 or 30 minute clips I think, maybe they're hour long clips I can't remember, but I remember being tickled and intrigued and I think a lot of insight and clarity and hilarity among it. All right, another one of the patterns that I've identified for myself is this pattern of loneliness. And I've been calling it the [inaudible 00:08:18] vibe because it ends up feeling like, you know, I'm alone. I don't feel like I have many people around. I'm just not very energized, maybe excited to do very much.
And this is the kind of pattern that just snowballs on itself. Aloneness and loneliness breeds more aloneness and loneliness. I find that creativity is a good way of getting me out of this and that can also feed in on itself too. If I'm creative by myself, then I, I'm creative, I'm creative until I'm done being creative and then I'm alone again. So I have to keep creating something and it can feel a little bit manic. So I found that creating stuff with other people actually is even cooler than creating on my own. And one of the, and sometimes just observing other people creating or other people sharing is enough to get me out of this as well.
And I found this out recently because there's a new app. You may have heard of it. It's called Clubhouse. It's on iPhone only right now and it's invite only as well. So depending on who you are listening to this, you may not be able to get access to Clubhouse. If you do and if you're interested, there is a club in clubhouse called the Lullaby club. I stumbled across it and wow, it is so, so cool. I also have heard from friends that there's some poetry reading clubs in there where you just read poetry to each other really neat. Anyway, basically clubhouse is an audio social platform.
So there's no texting at all. You- you create private rooms or public rooms that people can come in and out of the people that are able to speak in the room, 'speak' are panelists or guests or moderators people that are just listeners in the room can ask to speak so they can ask questions. They can give their input. It's- it's a really interesting, really interesting platform. However, the Lullaby club is a bit of a departure from all of that. The, Lullaby club uses the club as format and creates a Clubhouse room, but it's all singers and songwriters.
And these singers and songwriters are every night from 9:00 to 11ish PM, Pacific standard time are singing live music one at a time, and they're doing it a little bit by style. So I think the original idea of the Lullaby club was a club for people to come to as they're trying to fall asleep, to help them get to sleep. And so the motto in the club, the rule in the club is that everyone whispers. So if you're gonna talk in the Lullaby club, you have like there's a baby in the room and you don't want to wake the baby.
And they take turns singing lullaby versions of popular songs and of their own songs. So basically for two hours a night, you can listen to live musicians, to live music playing Every night, it's so cool. I- I just gotta say, it's this beautiful serotonin boost. And I've found for myself in the last couple of months, I have been working on some health stuff and going to bed earlier and being off of my screens after sunset is something that my health consultants are really wanting to push me into doing. So when I discovered the Lullaby club that got so much easier because I can turn the Lullaby club on, on my phone, set my phone to red screen. So there's no blue light coming out of it and just sit there and listen and enjoy myself. And I'm being social, I'm connecting with people. I don't feel alone, even though I am alone, I often will sit there and color while I'm listening to the Lullaby club, which for some reason is very soothing and delightful. And yeah, I dunno.
I think part of what makes it so lovely is that these singers and songwriters, many of them have been shut in for a year, not having live audiences to play in front of, not had that feeling of the- the theater vibe, at least as much as they used to. And here's an outlet where they get to sing and play and perform live in front of other people and get feedback from people whispered of course, and there's something about the whispering, which just makes it even softer and juice here and amps up the serotonin level, so even higher. Now I said serotonin levels and I don't know the science behind that, but I will say that's how I feel. I feel very calm and very connected to my body. So if you own an iPhone, I highly recommend checking out Clubhouse and the Lullaby club, Axel Mansoor started the Lullaby club.
I love his voice. He's got a very cool sort of John Maorish style and yeah, I love it. Maybe I'll see you in there some night. There's another band that I ran across recently, which has also inspired me with my creativity. It's a band called Okay Go. I was first introduced to them through one of their music videos. It's a super cool music video. The song that the video is recorded for is called upside down and inside out. What I love about this music video is that it is recorded in zero gravity part of the time. And they have a couple of videos where they talk about the behind the scenes of how they did it. It's amazing. So the way they did this video and I highly recommend you take six and check it out cause first of all, it's a catchy song, pretty interesting. But the video watching it is really cool because I think he sees six times where there's most of the time in the video, it looks like they're floating around in no gravity.
There's things flying all over, they're doing flips and turns and twists and somersaults it's pretty cool. And then six different times during the song, the video all of a sudden kinda collapses, it's like gravity gets turned back on. Now, if you watch the behind the scenes, you'll figure out why that happens. It's 'cause gravity actually is getting turned back on, but they recorded this entire thing in a plane, in a plane. That's nicknamed the Vomit comet actually, because it's used to train astronauts in zero gravity and fascinating stuff. Anyway, so I found Okay Go and was browsing around on YouTube and then I found another one that they're, their videos, which is so cool. It's called #Art Together now. So this band wrote and performed a song together over video conference during the pandemic, during the lockdown. And it is a really cool concept and they decided to invite their fans to participate in the next version of the song.
So I put a link in the show notes to this invitation video and to the Upside Down & Inside Out. And at the end of this episode, I'm going to invite you to create some art with me on my podcast. So in this video #Art Together