Tanuki is one of Rebecca’s poly friends who has had a big impact on her lifestyle. We talk about the Protocol kink, our poly lives co-mingling, the sex party at her house where I met my lover, Nuru adult slip’n slide, things I’ve learned from Tanuki, and also about her life as a (married and poly) sex worker, including learning about models of consent and what a “high price of admission” looks like …

SHOW NOTES:

Introduction

3:50 – About Tanuki’s wedding

6:34 – Tanuki having a “high price of admission”, a Dan Savage-ism

8:50 – “Why do we keep having babies with the men we want to spend time with?” – Rebecca, quoting Tanuki

11:50 – “What would you say that you have learned from the Kink world that you can put into use in your everyday life?” – Rebecca

13:13 – “I didn’t think I was kinky!” – Tanuki

19:23 – Barbara Walter’s talking about doing the Bunny Dip (Watch Barbara Walters! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqBBsN8jxi0)

21:00 – Rules for sex parties, what it takes to through a party and what inspires you to do that kind of thing? -Rebecca

31:15 – “She thinks my research are hot!” -Tanuki

34:04 – “What do you wish people knew about sex?” – Rebecca

35:38 – “it’s OK if what you are doing to my pussy is about your pleasure!” – Tanuki

37:05 – “Rebecca was the first woman I ever made cum. But, I didn’t MAKE her cum, it’s totally a team sport!” – Tanuki

37:50 – “‘Making’ somebody cum is not accurate. More accurate would be “I received Tanuki in a way that I could explosively orgasm.” – Rebecca

41:13 – strategies for how to communicate more clearly when someone isn’t hearing you…

“If your lover is not hearing you, the most important thing is to not silence yourself!” – Tanuki

43:36 – “Any advice for men about how to play in that situation where there is a “No, but…”” – Rebecca

44:44 models of consent

51:21 – another Dan Savage-ism, it’s a super power! if discussing something frankly drives someone away, then you have just saved yourself a bunch of time!